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RE: FED UP - 10/9/2008 5:49:26 PM
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preserved
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I have to agree prayer is the only right solution for now...Could be that God is asking you to work on yourself and allow yourself to be presentable for the right person God sends. I noticed that you refer alot about looks and how many say that you are attractive...and so on...Maybe you are looking for something that God is not pleased with.
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RE: FED UP - 10/9/2008 6:34:24 PM
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BeautifulFemale
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hehe...something God's not pleased with? Such as character along with looks??? I'd say, God wants me to be a better wife, mother...closer to Christ and totally putting my trust in Him. I believe that because I've never really put my mind into this faith except in and out on fire experiences./closeness.
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RE: FED UP - 10/12/2008 7:47:26 PM
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levimichal
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I am 24 years-old and it is so easy to get impatient but you know what no matter what God has planned my time would be better spent serving God than looking around for a "cute" guy without a wedding ring. I could care less if he was a 1 on a 10 point scale if he loved God first and foremost and God wills me to be with him I could care less. I am not one who seeks the outer appearance but a man of character. I would wait long and hard for that. I hope I do not sound harsh but frankly God's best is worth waiting for. Lowering standards, other people try to tell me man Levita you have to give up some of those if you ever want to find someone but I will trust in God.
God moves in a mysterious way
His wonders to perform;
He plants His footsteps in the sea
And rides upon the storm.
Deep in unfathomable mines
Of never failing skill
He treasures up His bright designs
And works His sovereign will.
Ye fearful saints, fresh courage take;
The clouds ye so much dread
Are big with mercy and shall break
In blessings on your head.
Judge not the Lord by feeble sense,
But trust Him for His grace;
Behind a frowning providence
He hides a smiling face.
His purposes will ripen fast,
Unfolding every hour;
The bud may have a bitter taste,
But sweet will be the flower.
Blind unbelief is sure to err
And scan His work in vain;
God is His own interpreter,
And He will make it plain.
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RE: FED UP - 10/12/2008 10:15:50 PM
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switchplate12
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One of the problems is that many, many christian men of marriage age 25-35 are a bunch of mama's boys who now have their allegiance to the church organization and who seem to expect attractive women to like them for their standing within an organization, their vast bible knowledge or their outward "goodness" - but they lack the passion and vigor that women are truly attractted to and therefore they become bitter.
many christian women of the same age group, have bought the Amish lie that they should give up their looks altogether, have no problem with being overweight, out of style, whiney, etc, and still believe that a super "spiritual" man should love them because of what they profess to be, i.e. good christian women. these kinds of women are control freaks who want super strong men, but don't realize a confident driven man is not going to be attracted to them.
the christian world needs a big wake up call, because this double standard is everywhere. People are attracted to people who present themselves well, who are bold and confident. And people who try to over-spiritualize this tend to want to make a person (man or woman) feel bad for wanting a desireable mate, as many of the posters in this thread have done to the OP.
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RE: FED UP - 10/12/2008 11:11:43 PM
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Laminin
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I'm fed up because I haven't met a Christian guy YET who rattles my spirit to my head and down to my feet! I keep noticing hot non-Christian guys and not having much to say to them - which I guess is good in a way - so that no dating relationship develops, but where are the Christian Paul Rudd look a likes...I keep meeting non-C who look so good and are sweet, and then being hit on by guys I'm really not interested in.( As friends, they're great, but future prospecto types - not yet:(
Other than that, the cuties don't seem to be many in the church -in this part of the world anyway...most really need the LORD..so, it kinda bugs right now...my age if you're wondering is 26!
I feel and hear your frustration. I was just saying that today to a friend of mine, odd. Christian men are loosing their Christian ladies to wordly men day by day. Either they're really old, or really young and not an option either way. Keep the faith, he's out there!
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RE: FED UP - 10/17/2008 1:04:05 PM
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BeautifulFemale
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Laminin, please please don't say that cliche line ' he's out there!' That too, just makes me feel more and more disappointed because once again, I hear of 2-3 more of my friends or acquaintances getting married. Not to sound terrible, but a girl who was pretty much negative, angry, problematic...has ended up engaged to a guy who is 2 years my junior. She is younger too and that's special! I don't feel green about it...but it's the fact that she's someone guys want to be with when on the other hand, people say I'm sweet, nice, thoughtful, caring...just missing something, I suppose. Take a guy who is working with me..for weeks, maybe it was all in my imagination, but I truly believed that he kept looking in my direction and staring a lot. When it came to an opportunity to talk a few times, he seemed all closed off and talking with other gals all the time. At one point, thought he was one of them so...in my mind, I moved on..seems so common. From time to time, I wonder if some genuine friends think it's weird.
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RE: FED UP - 10/17/2008 9:29:12 PM
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Laminin
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Laminin, please please don't say that cliche line ' he's out there!' That too, just makes me feel more and more disappointed because once again, I hear of 2-3 more of my friends or acquaintances getting married. Not to sound terrible, but a girl who was pretty much negative, angry, problematic...has ended up engaged to a guy who is 2 years my junior. She is younger too and that's special! I don't feel green about it...but it's the fact that she's someone guys want to be with when on the other hand, people say I'm sweet, nice, thoughtful, caring...just missing something, I suppose. Take a guy who is working with me..for weeks, maybe it was all in my imagination, but I truly believed that he kept looking in my direction and staring a lot. When it came to an opportunity to talk a few times, he seemed all closed off and talking with other gals all the time. At one point, thought he was one of them so...in my mind, I moved on..seems so common. From time to time, I wonder if some genuine friends think it's weird.
Well what would you have me say then. If you don't believe he is, then I'll refrain. And believe it or not, I'm in the same bandwagon you are; the 2-3 more of my friends or acquanitnaces getting married. And you aren't missing anything, the word clearly says, "we are in this world, but not of this world". Granted I don't know the realationship the one gal has with her God, but if you have one yourself then don't sweat it. Really, don't sweat it. Yes, easier said than done and perhaps 'cliche' as you might call it, but it's the truth. I'm in my late 20's, most if not all of my friends (highschool and college) are married and working on their 1st baby. Does it rub me the wrong way at times? Well sure, I'm 100% human! But if it's your DESIRE to get married, and you've sought His face in the matter, then trust that He will give you the desires of your heart in due season. Until then, enjoy the single season to the best of your ability. Read up on the DNA of relationships, educate yourself on the Boundaries in Dating (both very good books if you're a reader). Preparation is key when single for when the time does come, you meet your Godly man, you're in the same step; not behind each other nor ahead of each other, but can take the next step together in unity.
Whose to say guys don't want to be with you? But the RIGHT guy WILL be with you. And not every guy who looks our way is tied to our destiny. I had to learn the hard way, after dating the same Christian man for 2 years, that after literally 10 minutes my world turned upside down and I was not incontrol by any means. Bishop T.D. Jakes said it best when he spoke about, "the right person, the person you're to be with, is tied to your destiny, and there is absolutely nothing that will shake that. All others, we MUST let go so they can fulfill their own destiny." It was at that point, through tears of sorrow and not understanding that I realized "so ok... he wasn't it, but the desire is still there...".
Here's a thought; write on a piece of paper, what you feel you desire in a mate and see what the Lord will do for you.
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