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Secular School vs. Christian School - 10/9/2008 8:50:29 AM
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mary0965
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I have been on different blogs but we have a problem at home - my daughter attends public school - she is in the high school and is a freshmen - active in different activities, sports, etc. She has myspace and we have told her not to abuse it, etc. and we limit her time she is on - we, as parents just found out she is talking to boys lot, has had them, sneaks to events at school to see them (we have told her no dating til she is 16) My husband and I are both Christians - my husband wants to pull her out of public school and put her into a christian school. I worry about the damages to her (as it relates to her and finding herself and already she is becoming her own person) I know that it all states we should have them in christian schools but I also know they have their problems too and I feel that she needs to make her own choices and we are there to guide and direct and keep her on the straight and narrow path - any one out there had any similar situations??
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RE: Secular School vs. Christian School - 10/9/2008 8:53:08 AM
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How would a Christian school be different?
-Dan.
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RE: Secular School vs. Christian School - 10/9/2008 9:18:21 AM
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coolfamily6
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I look at the Christian school options you have in your community. But many nonchristian parents put their "rebelling" kids into Christian schools, so you do not have a pool of just Christian kids there.
I have an 8th grader, she is not allowed a myspace and right now is ok with that. If she started acting out and having issues like you are describing I would take away privledges first and the computer is one as is a cell phone. I would also begin spending more time talking with her. Having her help cook, and run errands etc to give opportunity to talk. Try to find out why the behavior is happening.
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RE: Secular School vs. Christian School - 10/9/2008 9:48:34 AM
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garsyt
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What's wrong with her interacting with boys? I really don't understand the whole idea that girls are not suppose to have friends that are boys and boys aren't suppose to have friends that are girls.
One of my eldest son's (a freshman in high school) dearest friends is a girl that he has known since he was 5 years old. He had another friend also a girl that he had known since he was just 4 years old - when she died this past year - he was devastated! Even now in high school he has several friends that are girls and several friends that are boys. One of my 5th grade daughter's good friends is a boy. They are just friends and they know that they can count on each other to stick up for each other as they approach middle school.
Yes you are going to have to teach your daughter how to conduct and protect herself, but give the boys a chance - not all boys are predators.
I would suggest talking to your daughter. For my daughter I want her to know that there are behaviors that I expect from her and ANY friend, boy or girl that she hangs out with. The same goes for my son.
Now the sneaking out has to be addressed as that is deceitful and obviously breaking a house rule.
As for having the boyfriend/girlfriend thing going on. Spend any amount of time in even an elementary school or middle school lunchroom in ANY school -public, Christian or private and you are going to hear talk about who has a boyfriend or a girlfriend and it's usually nothing more then just that, talk.
Again - I, personally, don't see anything wrong with girls having friends that are boys or boys having friends that are girls.
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RE: Secular School vs. Christian School - 10/9/2008 10:11:08 AM
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stellaluna
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Being in a Christian school wouldn't necessarily change anything you've described. I learned things in a private Christian school that I'm frankly still shocked over--and that was after being in public school for 10 years!
You don't say how old your daughter is, but...
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I feel that she needs to make her own choices and we are there to guide and direct and keep her on the straight and narrow path
This sounds like you give her way too much power and leeway. Delete her Myspace, ban her from the computer, don't allow her out of your sight and make her earn back your trust. That's what I'd do first before making a school change.
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RE: Secular School vs. Christian School - 10/9/2008 10:17:13 AM
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Isn't there a policy about having 2 different "Discussions" regarding EXACTLY the same topic?
This VERY topic, started by the VERY same OP is going on in the "Parenting" section...
for what it's worth, though...
I just got an e-mail JUST THIS MORNING...from my wife's cousin....
Her nephew and neices attend a "christian school"....
ALL of them are on "FaceBook" (my wife's cousin and the nephew and neices)
There's this thing called "THE WALL" on "Facebook", and you can clearly see conversation between all of your "friends" and others.....
IN it, the kids are always "communicating" with their friends from school.....and, the language used amongst them is CERTAINLY against TOS here on Crosswalk...and filthier than I have ever heard in even a public school....(she cut and pasted blocks of the text...then e-mailed them to me just this morning)....
And, yet, they all go to a "Christian School"....
YOU WROTE:
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I know that it all states we should have them in christian schools
....there is NOTHING that "states" that our children "SHOULD' be in Christian schools....
anyway...that is MY 'Similar' situation....since you are had a particular issue with a "social networking" site....
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RE: Secular School vs. Christian School - 10/9/2008 10:25:55 AM
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