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Older Parents Chat - 10/5/2008 2:19:49 AM
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Memaw.
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So, your child is now a teen, young adult or married and on their own?
This is the place for you!
None of those "up-all-night-baby-crying-diaper-changing-didn't-get-a-shower-because-the-kid-is-puking-everywhere" discussions here!
No sirree bob, this is the place for us to chat about our grown (or nearly grown) children, our grandchildren, or great grandchildren.
This is the place to talk about the vacations we can plan that do not include "did you bring the pack and play?" and discussion that doesn't have "how many car seats does that particular van hold?"
I'll start.
My name is Kim.
I am 46, married to Rick.
We have 5 children ranging in age from 28-16 and three granddaughters (who are the apple of my eye).
I have been looking forward to this part of my life for awhile now.
Does that mean I didn't enjoy my little ones?
No, I enjoyed them tremendously, it's just that they are on their own (all but the 16 yr old) and a new chapter of my life is starting, so I embrace this as well as I embraced the past chapters.
I so much enjoy that Rick and I can on the spur of the moment get up and go shopping, go for an overnight trip, or just out to the movies without packing a diaper bag and kitchen sink.
We are learning each other in new ways, and sometimes that's real hard to do because lots of times without the topic of kids, we don't have a lot to talk about..LOL
So now, your turn.
Come on in, get comfy and let's chat. 
*If you do not fit the criteria, feel free to read and ask advice, but this is a thread for older parents of older children, so let's keep it on topic ok?*
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RE: Older Parents Chat - 10/5/2008 5:52:10 PM
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HisLamb26
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So,
What do I like about having older/grown kids?
I can go to Walmart by myself.
I can load the family in the car without dealing with car seats. All I have to do is unlock the doors-they all can buckle themselves now.
I can leave them alone, and don't have to pay a sitter.
They bathe themselves.
They feed themselves. (I just put the food in front of them)
They take care of their own toileting needs and cleanup.
My oldest drives and has his own car, so I am taxi=mom for only 2 now.
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RE: Older Parents Chat - 10/5/2008 9:27:07 PM
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Memaw.
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do you all remember how hard it was to take your small herd out places?
Absolutely remember.
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LOVE this teen time, but it's also quite scary - both for the "letting go" POV and also for the "getting nearer and nearer to the time they leave home" POV
Manda, welcome to the thread!
It is hard, the "inbetween" time.
I had one DD who flew the minute she turned 18, of course she had been standing on the edge of the nest since she was about 14...flapping those little wings. 
Another DDs' husband nearly had to drag her to her own nest. 
The main thing I have learned since 4 of 5 have left is to make sure they take everything they own otherwise they come back.
No, seriously, it is sad when they leave, I miss my babies  but so much enjoy my children at this age too. 
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Memaw, this is really a older parent support thread isn't it!!!!!!!!
Deb, you betcha it is!!!! 
As you get older, we need all the support (bra, stocking, truss..whatever) we can get!!!!
Welcome welcome welcome!!
I'm so glad you all are showing up here!
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A government big enough to give you everything you want,
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RE: Older Parents Chat - 10/5/2008 9:28:09 PM
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Memaw.
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So if it's O.K. I may come in for advice on teen and tween years.
Absolutely!!
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RE: Older Parents Chat - 10/6/2008 1:08:19 PM
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Memaw.
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Does anyone else love myspace and TMing to keep in touch with their older children? It is far less intrusive than a phone call, and more interactive than a snail mail.
Our preferred method is text messaging.
I usually hear from DD #2 about once a week (unless she needs money then it's a whole lot more) and DD #1 is every day (she lives in same town).
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A government big enough to give you everything you want,
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RE: Older Parents Chat - 10/6/2008 1:45:41 PM
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zoebob
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Well, I'm starting to move into this stage. I feel I'm this way more than the baby stage. Oldest is 12. Youngest is 7 but can do his own seatbelt (now shoes are another issue). He'll be out of a booster seat in about 6 weeks. I can leave them for relatively short periods of time: an hour or two in certain combinations.
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RE: Older Parents Chat - 10/6/2008 2:25:00 PM
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2shaye
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Hi! I'm almost 45 and have an almost 23 year old son and a 13 year old daughter. My son will be getting married next July. For now, he still lives with us. Actually, I look forward to the day that he moves out on his own. Another independent adult in the house often causes conflict. My worries for him, these days, are about purity. He and his gf say they want to wait, but I know the struggles and I don't always agree with the decisions they make (duh!). Once they are married, then I will anxiously await my first grandbaby!
My dd is quite a handful at this age. She is not boy crazy, so that's not our issue as of yet. She is a really great young woman and when she is "good" I love to be around her. She is the focus of dh's and my prayer concerns, conversations and thoughts. We really want to do the right thing!
Do any of you with married kids have struggles with your parents or in-laws about your married kids? My mil is driving me nuts about wanting to know EVERY detail about my son's life. She bugs him to the point that he won't answer her calls or return emails. Any suggestions on how to cope?
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RE: Older Parents Chat - 10/6/2008 3:00:02 PM
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doinkdom
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Finally! A thread just for us so we don't pass on our outdated, cavewomanish and dare I say, biblical child-rearing knowledge...we'll just erase Titus from the bible.
I am 50, have 2 grown daughters (32 and 29). Most of my heartburn comes from the 29 yr old...prolly cause we both have red hair.
But I love my grandbabies - I have 7, ages 10 months to 10 years.
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