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My Husband Is Gone - 11/11/2008 2:05:50 PM
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PatricksPeaches
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November 11, 2008
To All That Read This:
I am sending out one email/post to all my groups, blogs, and friends. Sorry if you receive this more than once. I just want to be sure everyone that cares can read this. Thank you for understanding.
I find myself with a heavy heart today. After a long trial and error period, I have had more error than anything. I made an error in judgement and went against what God was telling me. Maybe the recent events, that I will explain, is a way to make right what I did.
My husband has a past full of trouble and pain. I knew this when I met him but was furious with God and didn’t care. Throughout our relationship we have had ups and downs battling these hang ups and trouble. I would always pray that he would turn around but he has not.
My husband is in jail facing some prison time. He was caught taking tires from vehicles on Saturday. That in combination of his past is why it is a more severe punishment. I am at a loss right now.
I love this man but I am not going to help him out of this. He is grown and knows the consequences for doing such things. He put his own desires and feelings before that of God or his family. To help him would be stupidity on my part and not letting God have control of the situation.
I understand that some are going to judge me and my children on that of my husbands actions. Some may choose to put space between my family and themselves. I understand, really! If some are uncomfortable with having me around, I will remove myself from whatever group/list that is uncomfortable.
I pray for Gods guidance and comfort with this situation. I do not know what the future will hold but He does and I have to believe that He will keep my children and I from being hurt anymore than we already are.
I ask for prayers above all else. There will be a lot of adjusting in the next few weeks. Some how I have to get myself and my girls through it.
Thank you all,
Robin
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I am not claiming to have all the answers but I'm holding on to the one who does!
-quoted from a song by 33Miles called Come With Me
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RE: My Husband Is Gone - 11/11/2008 2:32:40 PM
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Hopenlove
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Please Robin - Hang in there. God does not judge, nor should we. Pray for your husband, as we will pray for you. By God's will - take each step of your life day by day. All hope is not lost - something amazing will come out of this!!!!!
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RE: My Husband Is Gone - 11/11/2008 2:48:04 PM
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bootsNspurs_mod
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Robin, Praying for you and your family. I don't see why there would be any reason that you would need to remove yourself from anywhere. What happened doesn't change who you are.
Also, I know that there are amazing things that can happen to people in jail, etc. God can use this to get ahold of your husband in a way that will be to his benefit in the long run. Never underestimate the Lord. He will take care of you.
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RE: My Husband Is Gone - 11/11/2008 3:06:20 PM
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firefighter38310
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I can only speak for me but I can assume all of us have had a troubled past. All fall short of Gods expectations at times. God allows us free choice but stands with us when we call upon Him.
Quote: My husband has a past full of trouble and pain. I knew this when I met him but was furious with God and didn’t care. Throughout our relationship we have had ups and downs battling these hang ups and trouble. I would always pray that he would turn around but he has not.
My wife and I have also had ups and down and battle at time. Not for criminal problems but just “our problems”. We chose to remain married. Continue to pray. Gods timing doesn’t necessarily coincide with our time. Don’t abandon your husband. Continue to pray for him. It is very possible God put you in is life to substantiate the change. I don’t know at times why and how God loves me but He does.
He loves your entire family despite the problems that exist.
We have an awesome God and despite the enormity of the problems you and your family are suffering through. His will endures.
Let’s just pray right now for God mercy and wisdom for you and your husband and children.
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RE: My Husband Is Gone - 11/11/2008 6:18:29 PM
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deermousie
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There's no condemnation from me or God, PatricksPeaches. (((Hugs))) to you in this difficult time. Don't let the devil or anyone tell you your husband's sin in your fault; it can't be. It was his, and he is getting consequences that could help him. Or maybe it won't.
You're getting the backwash of his consequences, too, and it hurts. I'm so sorry. It's for times like this that God made us into a body - when one part hurts, all the parts hurt. I hurt for you, dear one. I grieve for the pain you and your children are feeling, and have been feeling. Let the body of Christ love you and hold you up.
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I made an error in judgement and went against what God was telling me.
OK, so you blew it somewhere. All of us do, and you don't stand out. We are all sinners. You have confessed (called it sin) and I assume repented (turned away from the sin). The next step is to accept God's forgiveness, because it is freely yours (1 John 1:8,9). Don't take my word for it; look it up. And rejoice in it.
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I love this man but I am not going to help him out of this. He is grown and knows the consequences for doing such things. He put his own desires and feelings before that of God or his family. To help him would be stupidity on my part and not letting God have control of the situation .
This is correct. If we stand in front of other's consequences, they don't feel the pain and thus don't feel the need to change and turn to God for help. Good for you for standing strong. Let God handle your husband's heart.
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I understand that some are going to judge me and my children on that of my husbands actions.
No one here is.
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Some may choose to put space between my family and themselves.
This is what the body of Christ is for. A brother is born for adversity. You're having adversity, and we are your brothers and sisters. You aren't alone; we are here for you.
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I understand, really! If some are uncomfortable with having me around, I will remove myself from whatever group/list that is uncomfortable.
No one who is aware of their own sin (and how do we get to God except through the blood of Christ shed to wash our sins?) will alienate you for your trouble.
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I pray for Gods guidance and comfort with this situation.
Me, too.
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I do not know what the future will hold but He does and I have to believe that He will keep my children and I from being hurt anymore than we already are.
Corrie ten Boom, the Dutch lady who wrote "The Hiding Place," went through terrible times and God was triumphant (read the book!). She said there is no pit that God is not deeper still. He is able to deal with all our calamities and bring grace. May God prevent further hurt from coming to you, and give you grace for the hurt that has come. God has not abandoned you, and life won't always be like it is today. Better is coming!
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I ask for prayers above all else. There will be a lot of adjusting in the next few weeks. Some how I have to get myself and my girls through it.
Lord Jesus, I lift up Robin and her children, that You will provide and comfort them and lead them the way You would have them go. Thank You that You have good provision and goodness coming so they can have a future and a hope (Jer. 29:17) in You. I ask that You convict and turn around this errant man and inflame him in Your love and truth. Please make him become a person who will glorify You because of his changed life and will take good care of his family. Please bring great glory to Yourself by Your grace and kindness to this suffering family, and I ask it in Your holy name, amen.
I will pray for your husband the words of that great hymn by Isaac Watts, "And Can It Be?" that they will soon be on his lips and heart as well:
Long my imprisoned spirit lay
Fast bound in sin and nature's night
Thine eye diffused a quick'ning ray
I woke - the dungeon flamed with light!
My chains fell off, my heart was free,
I rose, went forth, and followed Thee.
Amazing love, how can it be?
That Thou, my God, shouldst die for me?
Take courage, dear one, God has not abandoned you and we are here for you, too. (((Hugs))) Be sure and get some food, enough sleep if you can, and a little exercise (it's a nature mood lifter and will help you get through the troubles a little easier). I am praying for you tonight, and my heart aches for you.
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RE: My Husband Is Gone - 11/11/2008 9:14:11 PM
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misty35
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ORIGINAL: PatricksPeaches
November 11, 2008
To All That Read This:
I am sending out one email/post to all my groups, blogs, and friends. Sorry if you receive this more than once. I just want to be sure everyone that cares can read this. Thank you for understanding.
I find myself with a heavy heart today. After a long trial and error period, I have had more error than anything. I made an error in judgement and went against what God was telling me. Maybe the recent events, that I will explain, is a way to make right what I did.
My husband has a past full of trouble and pain. I knew this when I met him but was furious with God and didn’t care. Throughout our relationship we have had ups and downs battling these hang ups and trouble. I would always pray that he would turn around but he has not.
My husband is in jail facing some prison time. He was caught taking tires from vehicles on Saturday. That in combination of his past is why it is a more severe punishment. I am at a loss right now.
I love this man but I am not going to help him out of this. He is grown and knows the consequences for doing such things. He put his own desires and feelings before that of God or his family. To help him would be stupidity on my part and not letting God have control of the situation.
I understand that some are going to judge me and my children on that of my husbands actions. Some may choose to put space between my family and themselves. I understand, really! If some are uncomfortable with having me around, I will remove myself from whatever group/list that is uncomfortable.
I pray for Gods guidance and comfort with this situation. I do not know what the future will hold but He does and I have to believe that He will keep my children and I from being hurt anymore than we already are.
I ask for prayers above all else. There will be a lot of adjusting in the next few weeks. Some how I have to get myself and my girls through it.
Thank you all,
Robin
Robin, I want to share something with you, but before I do, I just want to say, "You dont have to worry about getting yourself through this, God, Himself, will carry you through, this I promise you!"
Anyway, as I was reading your post, my heart was beginning to ache for you, I can feel your pain, as many others here can, but as I was reading, I know without a doubt, that God wants me to share this with you. My aunt, who was strung out on drugs severely, I mean the worse of the worse, Meth! She turned her back on her husband, on her kids and sold everything she owned for this drug, she lost everything!! Her husband moved away, he moved in with another woman, in another State, leaving the kids as well, it all devestated him so much, we kept the kids, between my grandparents and another aunt, we took care of her kids. When we seen her, there was no talking to her, she was a thief and could not be trusted alone, she would even take from her kids!! Her youngest daughter is in a wheel chair, and has been since birth, she took everything that kid had, and sold it!!! It was aweful, and to see what those kids were going through, would have killed a persons heart!
She got arrested, more than once, and we would get her out, to see the pattern repeated, until finally, the last time, my mother finally spoke up, and said no!! Not this time!! Now this is my mom's sister. Anyway, my mom said no, she can stay in jail, all we are doing is enabling her to continue down this path and she is only getting worse. It was so hard to leave her in jail, I seen my mom cry many nights, having to leave her sister there was terrible, but we did, and we prayed, day and night...she would call, and we would pray, she would write letters trying to make the family feel guilty, and we would pray. Finally, we were going to try and get her out, but it was like God said no, Im not finished, and I want you to know, WE COULDNT GET HER OUT!! It was amazing, God shut that door, and he dealt with her, one on one, and guess what, today, she is serving the Lord with all her heart!! God has restored her marriage, her relationship with her and her kids, and He has given her back more thatn what she lost to begin with!!
So dont you give up, you pray, and rest in God's loving arms....you pray God's Will be done in this situation, and you give it to Him, He will carry you through this storm my friend, and He will make you stronger than you have ever been before! Allow Him to do what needs to be done. Too many we try, and we fail, because we cant do it, but remember, He cant fail!
Im praying for you, and sending you hugs! And no one will judge you Robin, remember...no weapon formed against a Child of God will ever prosper. He is our Avenger, He fights our fights, and we serve a God, who cannot be defeated! But trust, you have to trust Him with what He is doing.
Love ya and Im praying!
Misty 
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RE: My Husband Is Gone - 11/12/2008 10:16:17 AM
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dianemccrary
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I just wanted to share that I will be praying for you and your family. I have read a lot of posters say something good could come out of all this and I agree! I am involved in a independent prison ministry with my parents and husband. We go into several different prisons in Ga and have service with the men in there. One thing I have seen is men that done a lot of terrible things give thier life to the Lord! Then realize it took going to prison to heed what God wanted to tell them! There is a lot of humble,talented men in the prisons we go to. They really love God and when they do get out want to serve and follow him cause they found thier way didn't work! I sharing this with you cause it sad it takes jail or prison but this may be the only way to get your husband to his lowest point to get him to listen to God to do what he needs to do. But you keep your head up, keep having hope, lean and trust on God and who knows you may just have to go shout awhile on how GREAT God came thru on all this! Again keeping you and your family in prayer!
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RE: My Husband Is Gone - 11/13/2008 12:21:27 AM
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PatricksPeaches
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Thank you all for your words of encouragement to me. And your prayers to our Lord!! Just a bit of an update:
I was finally able to talk to my husband on the telephone today. He hadn't been able to get through before this and I guess one of the jail deputies let him use an office phone to call.
His story is this:
He and his friend (some friend, I say) were at this restaurant. While my husband was inside getting the food, his friend was outside attempting to steal a spare tire off of a Dodge Ram truck. When my husband came out of the building the police had his friend in custody. The newspaper says that tires were taken from four Dodge trucks. That is false. There were three other tires in my husbands truck that were legally his. I know this for a fact because he bought two of them earlier with his dad at a junk yard and his dad gave him the other one that he had from his old van. My husband didn't have the receipt for the junk yard tires, so he couldn't prove that those were really his. That and being that the vehicle they were in was my husbands is why they were both arrested. My husband says that the police said that this friend was caught with HIS hand in the cookie jar. My husband swears that he didn't try to take anything. He also says that this friend is going to tell the court, or whoever, that he was responsible.
I have not seen the police report yet to see if all this checks out but it does make sense to me. I know this friend and he is not a very trustworthy or caring individual. My husband shouldn't have been with him in the first place. Every time they are together something happens that is not good. I pray that this is the true story but I won't be surprised to find out otherwise. I want to believe that my husband wouldn't lie to me but I am not a fool. He is human.
His next court date is Nov. 20. I will be there to see what happens and maybe I will be able to read a copy of the police report then. In the mean time I told my husband all I can do for him now is pray for him and visit him if and when I can. I put some money into his commissary account too but not much. I told him to find a Bible and read it. Pray and let God work in him. I pray he takes that advice.
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*Robin*
I am not claiming to have all the answers but I'm holding on to the one who does!
-quoted from a song by 33Miles called Come With Me
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