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Much thanks and a few new questions. - 10/22/2008 3:12:22 AM
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mississippi_girl71
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First I just want to thank everyone who responded. All of your answers were so kind and helpful. I wanted to add a few more details and ask a few more questions.
My husband, (I guess I should say ex, now) professes to be a believer. He actually claims that he is one of the few people who lives right. Truly though, he just put on a facade in front of others. He does not attend church, he rarely reads his Bible or prays. He sometimes goes to bars and drinks. And then of course there is the illegal activity with SSI. So, I guess what I am wondering is if he IS a believer just because he says he is, or does his lifestyle mean that he is not a true believer. I am asking this because several of you made a good argument about him being a non-believer and leaving me by wanting the divorce. I knew about that part of scripture but never really thought of him as a non-believer.
The thing about my step-son is rather complicated also. He knows nothing of his father's behavior but I feel that as he gets older he will find out. The bio-mother is actually as bad if not worse. The child was taken from her in an emergency hearing and given to us a few years ago. She was neglecting him and leaving him alone in an apartment in a bad part of a mojor city. She is now involved in drugs and alcohol and runs the bars with a group of bikers from around here. She and my husband have been embroiled in bitter court battles since they divorced about 9 years ago.
It would be difficult for me to do anything in court. He is friendly with a lot of powerful people. I know there is no way that I could take the child or get custody of him. If I leave, I'll have to walk away and never see him again.
Someone asked where my friends and family were. To answer, he has never allowed me to have any friends. He won't even allow anyone to visit me in our home. Not even my children. I do have some family, but they are all unable or unwilling to help. I am praying that I can make some friends at church. Church is the one activity that he does not mind me doing.
Does anyone know how much help shelters typically give? I won't have a job or a vehicle or any money. I am a hard worker, but I have not worked in eight years. Do they assist in finding a job? Or transportation? I do have office experience but as I said, it has been eight years since I worked.
I have made several decisions to help the situation. I have decided that no matter what, I will refuse to apply for disability myself. I will not perjur myself by lying about my living situation. I've started discreetly looking into shelters. I've decided to find a good church and pray that God will send me someone that I can trust as a friend and mentor. Maybe an older lady in the church with the time and desire to give advice. I am also working hard on trying to get my health better, so I will be able to work.
Thank you all again, and please be in prayer for me. God bless and good night.
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RE: Much thanks and a few new questions. - 10/22/2008 9:33:19 AM
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Row1
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wow. there is just too much to say.
your idea about finding someone to talk with at a decent church is a great idea. if you can find a counselor to meet with, that would be great. you need to get your life on track regardless of what every other mortal on earth, including your husband exhusband whatever, is doing.
it sounds like you are isolated from everyone, and you are doubting all of the decent ideas you have, and actually considering some foolish ideas, like believing that this husband exhusband is a great christian, and you are considering faking some illness so you can get money.
find someone who is doing fairly well in life to give you some support and guidance. hopefully a decent counselor. I have prayed for you!
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RE: Much thanks and a few new questions. - 10/22/2008 9:58:38 AM
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ta_mosquito
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Please continue in THIS THREAD already in progress on this topic. Mississippi_girl71, please add further details and updates to the thread you already started instead of beginning a new thread.
Closing this thread.
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